Facing the obstacles, even the obstacles that seem insurmountable, it does not mean you are on the wrong path. We all experience despair and doubt. Times where we question the value of what we do. Times when the temptation to give up. I have them, just like everyone of my work. I'll bet that everyone tries to be more of them before, now reaching a critical choice. Feeling sorry for yourself is not wrong actions. What we often fail to see the value in the pit of despair. Experience what it desperately needed for breakthrough occurred.
BELIEF SYSTEM AND INTERNAL TAPE
The experience of dark despair is not logical, is not resolved intellectually. These are times of darkness means we have to bring ourselves back into the core of what we believe about ourselves. Deep painful conviction that we prefer to keep hidden from ourselves and from others. The pain has not yet reached our goal forces us to look at what we believe to be true about ourselves. Restrictions beliefs vary, but may include the following:
"There's something wrong with me."
"I never get what I want."
"I cannot 'get what I want, no matter what I do. This is no hope."
"Who I am is not enough."
"I did not include."
When we experience change, we must make is the realization that it was not what we face is the problem, but how we react to it. How do we react to situations based on our inner beliefs about ourselves. It feels hopeless because you have increased the inner conflict. Conflicts of what you want to believe versus what you really believe. This conflict must be either suppressed (by giving a goal) or conflict should be resolved (this goal is achieved or a new belief into an integrated system.).
This is the current pressure is, give up or move forward, allowing the option to enter into a new belief about yourself or to strengthen an old belief. Just because things seem to be addressed right now, does not mean you do not have to follow this path. It just means you are dealing with what you believe. And inner belief system threatened to cause various symptoms, negative thoughts of the most common, suicidal thoughts, hopelessness, low energy, panic or anxiety, or worry about small details.
DARK hole
With big changes come risks facing the darkness of what we believe about ourselves. Sometimes it is easy enough to face the darkness and bring light. But sometimes we fall directly into the hole. If you fall, take a breath and know this experience has great value. You are only here because you are ready to explore and discover a horrible idea you have about yourself. An idea that you can not have what you want, that your best is not good enough, or that no matter what you do the things that remain desperate. In the dark hole of your ideas are made about yourself when you were a child in an attempt to explain the experience of growing up. Your spirit hiding in the darkness, awaiting your return. So if you are in the dark hole of despair you are in luck blest. You have reached the place where you have hidden your spirit. Only you can choose to bring your spirit back into the light. When you face the darkness, will you decide to heal your soul by offering it a boost? Are you soothe your soul and bring new information?
Say you decide to be with your darkness? Now what? You should sit down with it. Sit with the pain of what it represents darkness. Yes, it felt great. Confusing. Hopeless. In the darkness there is only dark thoughts. Do not fight darkness with more darkness (anger, frustration, threat, despair ..). It will only create a greater darkness. ACCEPTANCE itself is the key. A fight darkness and despair to all it may be to keep us believing that we are weak and flawed. Not because of evil, but because we put trust into place to keep our spirits safely hidden in the dark. As an adult, you now hold the key to accept the darkness, to receive all the dark thoughts, and offer love and light. Listen to your spirit. Let speak the words of fear. Then offer the comfort of your spirit and acceptance. After all, the spirit you go through some pretty hard times decides that hiding is the only safe option.
You have to travel quite far away, only to come to a dead end. Accept that you do not have what you want. Accept this. Not with anger, not with frustration. Simply breath and accepted. No matter why you are at this point. It is like that. Now go deeper into it.
Transition point may provide an opportunity to strengthen your spirit and not let outside circumstances throw you off balance. This is an important opportunity to choose to empower the mind, gentleness practices and beliefs, and reinforce your belief that you can have what you want. Receive the best experience possible. This will lead to insight. Acceptance of what is, though it may feel scary, is the way out. Receipts are not apathetic. Use revenue to allow you to go deeper. A journal, therapist, or trusted friends to help when you sit with these questions:
1. What I am experiencing now?
2. What are my thoughts about this experience?
3. What am I feeling?
4. What I believe about myself, my place in the world, as I was meeting a dead end?
5. Is this similar to how I feel in certain situations as a child?
5. What is the spirit I need to feel safe and confident?
6. If I am wise and loving, how do I comfort myself?
CHOOSING THE PATH
Forward or give up? There is no wrong choice. At the transition point, do not push yourself. Do not create self-judgment. Realize that you have invited themselves to question the belief that important you continue to be true about yourself. Probably a good time to sit down with this, maybe not the right time. If it is your destiny to allow yourself to have what your goals represent, you will create the opportunity once again. Relax. Realizing how scary moment and find compassion for yourself. What path should you choose? Carlos Castaneda wrote in, "The Teaching of Don Juan", "Does the road have a heart If not, a good way," If not, then do not use two road leads nowhere;. But one has the heart and the other does not One makes you strong;. the other weakens you. " Perhaps the real transition in the current choice is the courage to open your heart to yourself you witness your own experience what most feared.
SITTING WITH WHAT
To move through doubt and despair, sat down with what you feel. Speaking words of frustration and anger. Write it down. Often times what we most need is another person to enable us to fully be in place with no hope at all. For them to say, "I saw you there, and it's okay." And to know that they will not try to fix it or make it better.
We need to offer us the same mercy. To see ourselves in our moments of despair and said, "It's okay that I feel this. It's okay that I'm experiencing this." To offer love and affection do not try to improve ourselves. If confusion is what you feel, really feel confused, with love for yourself to feel it. Open your body and let the confusion and expand within you. Experiment (with the therapist if this is too hard) with no fear of your own emotions. Avoid the temptation to retreat into old patterns of hunger, overeating, bingeing, or numb out with other addictions. The fact that you feel confusion is not a sign of failure. This is a sign of growth and courage.
Despite the hard feelings, recognize the value of exactly where you are. Trying to be with your feelings without judgments. Feel what you feel with acceptance. Accept that you are experiencing hopelessness, desperation or frustration. No need to judge it. No need to defend it. No need to analyze and find out where it originated. It is acceptable to feel the pain. It is acceptable to give up. We all feel that at times. Your job at the critical point is finding a way to open up and accept his own despair. Crying tears, screaming rage, all testify to injustice. Then decide. While you are at a dead end, what can you do now? It may seem a lot easier to go back to the food, bingeing, alcohol, starvation, exercise, or diversion for comfort. But is that what you want? Refocus your mind away from the future and bring yourself back to now. Bring the power of words and encouragement. "I have the gift of inner confidence, patience, confidence and discipline I can choose my destination. I have the strength and stamina to reach them. I am part of work and decent in the world and I have an important job to do. I'm not afraid to believe in the power my mind or my power. "
MORE FAITH
As I continue my journey, I have learned that achieving greater faith is an ongoing journey. and not just a one step process. Each of us has a lot of belief systems that limit within which must be faced, accepted, and released. Faith in anything, including me, is an experience that is infinite and always growing. There is a part of Betty Eadie's book, "Awakening the Heart" in which he describes faith as an ongoing process. First we have the knowledge. Then confidence. We practice the belief again and again, and finally faith began to grow. Are you talking about faith in God, or faith in yourself, it's not something that you wake up with one day. At least it's not my experience. It takes going back to a dark place to re-establish faith. Learning to be good to our spirits that may be scared, stubborn, and even challenging.
Although painful and we really might want to run away from what we feel, just by sitting down with our spirit that is hiding in the darkness and bring the love that we can re-establish faith. I often wished at that time was not so. This extraordinary painful to reveal what is inside us sick. But we finally discovered the truth: just a misunderstanding of our own, our own beliefs, our own judgments and punishments, that we are not worthy. Prize is decided, to our astonishment, that it's really okay to open our own hearts to all aspects of ourselves.
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